Stressful people and stressing events are all around us. Every situation in daily life creates some kind of stress whether it affects us positively, negatively or not at all, but the bottom line is stress is all over the place. It is how you react to it that matters and this depends entirely on you.
There are stressors that are unavoidable and are difficult to deal with, however there are also stressors that are unnecessary and are not deemed worthy to worry about it. These unnecessary stressors may take the form of day-to-day activities that do not normally cause stress if a person handles it well enough, but which for someone else may cause quite an upset.
Since stress comes from all around us, it is somewhat quite difficult to pick out which ones are unnecessary stressors. Here are some things that could lead you to experiencing too much unnecessary stress.
First things first, stop always saying yes to everyone and consider saying no. Saying yes to all of the requests and invitations will cram your schedule and add pressure to your time management. It can lead to taking on far too much and missing deadlines. Accepting a sudden invitation to a party tonight when you planned to finish your assignment (due tomorrow) will definitely cause you stress, and unnecessary stress! Always saying yes to others may lead to sacrificing pleasurable time working on your own personal goals or maintaining your health and fitness schedule (which is imperative to managing stress). Discover and set and your priorities first, and honour them before saying yes to something automatically.
Avoid getting frustrated and stressed out from trivial matters, events and situations that do not need too much attention. Daily hassles like traffic, annoying employee relationships, housework issues, etc are some examples of things that can cause stress if you make a big deal out of it. If it is already a big problem then put time into solving it, but these things do not usually cause too much stress on their own. Accepting reality and working with or around these situations will allow you to lessen the stress.
Always be optimistic and do not easily give in to small things. For example when you are caught in traffic, it may be easy to become frustrated, but it is certainly much more productive if you instead make something out of your time. Being caught in such a situation that you cannot control is exactly what it is. You can’t do anything because it is outside of your control! Frustration occurs when you wish you could do something, so stop wishing and accept the situation as it is. Then you can calmly go about using your thoughts for other non-stressful, productive things.
Be pro-active and not reactive in life. Not that you can control everything, but when you have maximum control over your life and the things that are happening, it reduces stressful feelings. If you don't want to be caught in traffic, take a different route or leave home earlier. If you want the housework done but you're struggling with time, hire a cleaner or involve the whole family in a rousing game of “cleaning olympics” every week. If you are stressed about what to cook for dinner every day, develop some menu plans so you have a ready list of meals. And most importantly, if you make your own plans ahead of time, you can honestly answer an invitation with “I'd love to, but I'm already booked up that day”. Unless it would be much more fun to say YES!